How Overthinking Has Affected My Life – Shelly

Hi there, I am Shelly from Growing With Spawn and I am excited to be sharing my post with you today. Wait, will using the word ‘excited’ make me seem like a desperate weirdo? Maybe should I say happy? Or maybe the intro should just be eliminated entirely and I should just jump into the post. Wait, am I overthinking this?

As you can tell, I overthink everything in life. Most people who know me don’t know this, but it is definitely a problem inside my head. But I know that I am not the only one.

Many of us overthink the simplest things in life on a daily basis, but have you stopped to think about how this affects your life? Do you worry that every time you say or do something, someone is judging you? If that’s you, welcome to the “Overthinkers’ Club”. Hopefully, by the end of this post, you don’t ever return to the club!

Thank you Saumya for letting me share a little snippet of my life on your blog.

Overthinking makes it hard to function

Ever since I was a little girl, I have been a serial over-thinker. It didn’t matter if it was choosing between orange soda or orange juice, or whether I should put pink or blue sheets on the bed. Regardless of the issue, much thought needed to go into every single process. So ultimately, making decisions became a permanent mission.
Many people can probably relate to this because the majority of us do actually take this thinking thing a bit too far. What is interesting is that even those who appear to be extremely successful, probably have the cogwheels turning behind the calm expressions.
That being said, just because we all overthink, it doesn’t mean we should continue to do so. Overthinking can impact our daily activities, and if it doesn’t, it will definitely take away from the enjoyment. So if you are currently overthinking things, take Naomi Osaka’s lead and stop for a breather. Nothing – even a tennis tournament – is ever that serious.

Everything becomes bigger than it really is

Have you ever worn an outfit out, then thought as though everyone was staring at you? Did you perhaps think it was because they thought you looked a little overweight? Or maybe even because the colour didn’t compliment you?
I have personally been guilty of feeling insecure in my own skin because I assumed others were thinking something about me. The ironic thing about thinking this way is that not everything is about you. We are hard-wired to think of ourselves first. So when insecurity takes over, everything we feel inside is projected onto invisible screens around us.
So no, that person looking at you doesn’t care that your hair is brown. She’s probably wondering where you got your earrings from, or planning her next outfit!

You might also like: Are you an Overthinker?

Overthinking will stop you from doing amazing things

Can you imagine how life would’ve been if Albert Einstein decided to stay in school out of fear that his family would think lowly of him? Or what about if Obama decided not to run for president since he would be the first black candidate? And what about if Saumya kept thinking about starting a blog but never got around to it?
Overthinking isn’t only something that impacts your present life, but can also have an impact on your future. Looking at my own life, I didn’t apply for a certain job that I really wanted because I thought I didn’t qualify. I also didn’t proceed with a medical degree even though I really wanted to, just because I wasn’t sure if I would be good at it! So instead, I watch Grey’s Anatomy, New Amsterdam, The Good Doctor, House, etc, and live vicariously through the actors. You can call me Dr. Shelly from now on!
If you’re an over-thinker, don’t allow yourself to walk down the path of ‘what ifs’. Thinking about the worst-case scenarios over and over again will never get you to where you need to be.

So how do we stop overthinking?

A funny thing about over-thinkers is that we assume that the opposite would be not thinking at all. We just believe that the loud voices in our heads will only stop the day they go silent. However, that is not the case at all.

We can’t stop planning for our futures and weighing out the best options. We definitely shouldn’t stop putting thought into our words and actions. And we also can’t stop choosing what we prefer.

If you want to stop overthinking, just follow your heart until it becomes second nature. The important thing to remember is just that life won’t stop if we make mistakes.

But before you sign off to go and conquer the world, make sure to check out Saumya’s post on my blog!

Are you an over-thinker too? What are some ways that your life was impacted?

Did you have fun, because I had loads doing it. If you did, don’t forget to like the post and drop a comment! Don’t forget to stop by Shelly’s blog
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Thanks for reading!

21 thoughts on “How Overthinking Has Affected My Life – Shelly

  1. This is relatable. I am an overthinker but only when it comes to the small things. Fortunately when it came to decisions regarding my career and my life, I reached my decision without much overthinking.
    But I get what you mean – making a decision can seem so difficult!

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  2. As an overthinker – I think keeping busy is the best way to stop overthinking. It is only in the quiet or free moments that my thoughts start to spiral.
    But you’re so right – it does stop us from doing so many great things and should be something that we work on.
    Great post, Shelly!

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  3. This is such a coincidenc. Just last night I was drafting a post about the life lessons my cancer experience taught me. Here’s a quote “ Pre-cancer Michelle would overthink everything and she wasn’t much of a risk taker.”
    It’s okay to be cautious, as long as you don’t let it stop you from experiencing life – good and bad. Thanks for this post!

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  4. Yes, I agree.
    Expert says human mind can think around 30,000-70,000 thoughts every day, but most of them are completely unnecessary.
    And I personally believe that sometimes overthinking is completely normal, unless you make it a habit.

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  5. This post was so relatable and was so important for me to read. I loved the advice- if you want to stop overthinking, just follow your heart until it becomes second nature. The important thing to remember is just that life won’t stop if we make mistakes. I have always wanted to stop thinking so much bcz its the main reason that makes me a perfectionist and i don’t really want to be one. I will surely work on it and follow the advice. It was an amazing post shelly! tysm!

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  6. Overthinking has it’s pros and cons. I would say overthinking helps me run through all the possible scenarios, but at the same times it makes me stressed and unable to really just enjoy what I’m trying to do. 🙁 Thanks for the advice! It’s also great to know I’m not alone!! ❤️

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      1. That’s okay, and you weren’t a pain actually. You at least replied…
        Some people don’t even care to do that!
        I loved doing this with you as well!

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